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Dear Exhausted Mom…

I want to start this by saying you are not alone. There have been many times, I’ve been in your shoes and there will be many times that I will be again. 

Whether you’re a SAHM, WAHM, Working Mom, new mom, seasoned mom, step mom, or anything and everything in between, you are probably exhausted. Often. 

Parenthood is a 24/7/365 job. Actually… I think it may be more .. is that possible? Sure feels like it is.  

I wanted to write this note to you today to let you know that your hard work doesn’t go unseen. Your late nights coupled with early mornings doesn’t go without recognition.  Your work matters. 

Without you, how would your daughter learn how to be strong? 

Without you, how would your son learn how to say “I’m sorry.” 

Without you, how would the world turn? 

I know that sounds sort of ridiculous but… literally… how would it? 

When you really think about all of the things we do every day, no wonder we are so exhausted! Give yourself some grace. Drink some wine, coffee, protein shake, ice cold water– whatever your power drink is πŸ˜‹ and keep going. 
Mommin’ ain’t easy…  but 

You are important and you are needed.



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What It’s Really Like To Be A Mom

Yesterday was a good day. Β I cleaned the house. I did multiple loads of laundry. Β I took the kids outside for 45 minutes. I baked. EverythingΒ went great.Β I did it all with a smile on my face and happiness in my heart. To add to that, my kids were in good moods, too. Like I said, yesterday was a goodΒ day.

Today?.. not so much.

It seemed as soon as my feet hit the floor, Β the day was destined to go awry.

Starting with my middle son having a bad attitude. Why? I really don’t know. I guess being a 6 year old is hard. Anyway, he began fighting me on anything and everything. Then my almost 3 year old joined in and now, I just want this day to have a restart button.

I don’t know if the rest of the day will follow suite and be a not so stellar day, or if it’ll turn around. Unfortunately, motherhood doesn’t come with a crystal ball.

What I do know is that for today, I’m just going lower my expectations because it’s obviously not going to be a good day like yesterday.

Days like yesterday come around every once in a while. Days like today, a little more often but most days are some where in between.

That’s what keeps me going… Knowing that the hard days don’t last forever.

What keeps me on my toes is not knowing how the day will go. Will it be good? Bad? Beautiful? I never know.

It’s unapologetically unpredictable but it’s my life. My kids and I see eachother in some pretty raw situations but we also see eachother in some of the happiest moments of our lives.

Like when my almost 3 year old ran outside yesterday. Actually, he didn’t run, he gallopedΒ through the yard. His face was beaming. I love seeing moments of joy like that with my boys. I can’t count all of them anymore. The number is infinite and my heart has expanded beyond itself to gather all of the memories up.

Some days are downright hard. Awful.Β 

Some are common and forgettable.

Some are beautiful.

So, crystal ball or not, moms keep going.

And that’s what it’s really like. Moms get up everyday and we face the unknown. Β πŸ’™

Dear Tired Moms, Please Read

Hi, 

I’m writing to you (and you, all of you!) today to talk about something that just hit me. 

I gave my 3 sons bagel bites for dinner (because tired) and I sat down and watched them eat. All lined up. 3 boys in a row. 

It had been a while since I had intently looked at them all at once. This time I was looking at their features. How big they are now. How they are so much older than they use to be. And I sat there exhausted, looking at my precious kids and it hit me.
 I’m full of exhaustion and they are full of life. 


All of the energy I’m pouring out daily is going towards my kids. Growing their bodies, their minds and their souls. 
And the same goes for you, momma. 
When you lay down at night and feel your bones ache, your soul weary and your mind frazzled,  just know it’s because you’re growing up your kids with every ounce of yourself you have. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. Parents shouldn’t completely  drain themselves out to their kids without also taking breaks to refill their proverbial cup. 

It’s important to allow ourselves the times we need to refresh; restart and rejuvenate. 

But day by day, week by week– we are tired. 
Because we have loved. 

And it’s probably the best reason to be tired that I can think of. 
Glitter & caffeine πŸ’“

Rebecca 

Letting Go of “Mom Fails”

It’s a long journey, Motherhood. Whether you are just beginning this life long adventure or have been mommin’ for years; you’re most likely aware of the feeling of mommy guilt.

It may swirl around you in a soft whisper all day or quickly slam into your head late at night, right before you close your eyes for a brief moment’s rest (because let’s face it, moms don’t sleep much.)

Here’s a list of what is bothering me right now: 

β€’I didn’t feed the kids enough green stuff all week. Also, I can’t remember the last time they actually ate those gummie vitamins that are suppose to help fill in the nutritional void. 

β€’The tv is always on. If it’s not on, the iPads are on. A screen is always on. 

β€’I really should buckle down on at least trying to potty train my 2 year old. I’m trying but why does it also feel like he will be in diapers until he’s 10? I know he won’t but… 

β€’My house is a wreck. It’s actually… always a wreck. 

Those are a few things that are currently making me feel somewhat guilty. Some might even call them “mom fails.” 

I feel guilt, I feel like I’m failing– roughly 75 percent of the time, it feels like there’s room for me to gain some mommy  improvement. 

What’s interesting though, is when I talk to my mommy friends about my feelings they all say, “ME TOO!”

And that’s when it hits us. 

None of us are failing

Sure, we may occasionally let the dishes go a little longer than we’d like. The laundry basket? Somewhat overflowing. 

But we keep going, Mommas. We keep mommin’.. and nothing about that is failure. 

So instead of Mom Fails, let’s talk about Mom Wins

β€’ I keep going every day even when I feel tired. 

β€’ I try my hardest to be the best mom I can be and to give my kids the best childhood I can. 

β€’My kids seem pretty happy. 

β€’When my 2 year old runs to me and jumps into my arms, it’s the best feeling in the world and I feel like my heart might explode from happiness. Knowing I’ve been nurturing  him and his brothers all of these years, is a feeling that can’t be described in words. 
Let’s try to focus on the positives and let go of whatever might be eating at us. Remember, none of us are perfect. Our kids don’t need perfect. They just need us. 

Keep Mommin’ ❀️

Holidays With Kids

I love making my kids happy during Christmastime. I’m positive you do, too. 

One thing I’ve noticed so far in my 10 years as a mom, is the time surrounding the holidays is hectic. 

Whether your holiday budget is large or small, or somewhere in the middle; There’s lists and it’s up to us to make them and check them twice. 

Where are you Santa? πŸ˜‚ 

Before we get completely lost in the chaos that is the holiday season, I wanted to make (yet another) list of ways to refocus on what really matters this time of year.

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Our kids. We are aware about giving them presents but let’s not forget to give them our presence, too.  This can be with holiday traditions such as Christmas movies, driving around and looking at the Christmas lights followed by late night hot cocoa, to name a few.  The options are limitless and seeing their little faces light up at such simple family traditions is worth more than all of the silver and gold in the world. 

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Give Back. There’s so many ways to give back this time of year. Try to find the right fit for your family and get your kids involved, too. My family does toy donation and my kids love to pick out toys for kids in the community who might otherwise go without. It’s a great feeling. 

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Less Stress. It sounds impossible, I know. But if we worry less about how clean the house is, how perfectly cooked the turkey is, or if the bow is on the present just right– then there will be more time for hugs, more time for laughs, and more time holiday cheer. 

 

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Happy holidays from my family to yours. 

Parenting In The 90’s vs Parenting Today

Ah, the 90’s. We drank more kool-aid than water and had limited access to the internet. It feels like it was such a long time ago, yet thinking about the decade springs back memories that are as fresh as the Prince of Bel Air.

If you grew up in the 90’s you remember it well. Beyond the grunge music, high fructose corn syrup and lack of global communication was a sense of vogue in that it was the 90’s.  (Thank you, Madonna.)

I was a teen at the turn of the 21st century so I truly hold the 90’s with childlike memories. I have recently begun to wonder what it was like from the standpoint of a parent. So I have comprised a list of parenting comparisons from the 90’s all the way to today. It’s a time warp that even Zack Morris’ cellphone can’t handle. 

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Car seats. 

It wasn’t until 1985 that all U.S. states had a car seat law. If you were born in the 80’s like me, chances are you came home in your mom’s arms. If you were a tot in the 90’s here is an example of a car seat your parents might have had for you. 

90’s:


Today’s car seats are the best they have ever been. Truly. 

Today: 
Bottles 

I do have a soft spot for the cutesy baby bottles of the 90’s. 


However the baby bottles today are especially designed to keep air out of little tummies which means less gas for baby and less crying. Which is definitely a good deal.  

Today: 

Baby food 

In the 90’s these were seen stacked up in shelves of homes of parents to babies more times than not. I remember as a kid seeing baby desserts at the store! The thought of that now is a little mind blowing. 

90’s: 

Nowadays a lot of parents are taking to the produce  isles of the grocery store to pick exactly what they want for their babies and making the food right in their own kitchens. Homemade baby food is cheap, easy and healthy. If you do buy store bought baby food, no judgement. It’s healthier now than ever before. Organic, sugar free and wholesome. Here’s a glance of what baby food looks like now. 
Today: 
Toys

If your kids had any tech toys in the 90’s it likely would have cost $100 and would have come complete with bad graphics. Most of us couldn’t afford such luxuries and had basic toys like play phones that looked a little bit like mom & dad’s grownup version.

90’s: 

Today technology is more affordable and more brilliant than ever. We as parents have smart phones and our kids’ play phones follow suit. Here’s what a play phone today looks like. 

Today: 

Clothes

Plaid was a pretty big deal in the 90’s and it’s back again today. Still, there was something special about 90’s plaid. Oversized shirts, pants. Comfy and hip. 

90’s:


Hip clothes for kids today is a little different but just as sweet. 

Today:


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The 90’s where a good time and we will always have them in our memories and in the time capsules of our favorite tv shows and movies. 

I hope you enjoyed this little glance back into time. I think I should end on this last note: No matter what era you raised your kids, you were rockin’ it and you and your kids are doing fab. πŸ”₯

Surviving The Post Halloween Crash

For the past month or so, my kids have been non-stop dreaming of costumes and candy. They thoughtfully picked their costume, we let our bellies decide on the candy and we all waited in excitement and anticipation for the day to arrive.

Finally, the fateful day came and my boys donned their over priced-but-totally-worth it Halloween threads and out the door they went in seek of the sugary goods.

Thankfully for me, my boys enjoy not just the candy Β but the spirit of the holiday, as well. They had a blast showing off their costumes and checking out what everyone else on the streets in our neighborhood were dressed up as.

Once home, of course the attention was right back to the candy!Β My kids devoured their favorite sugary treats, then it was soon time to brush their teeth and off to bed with visions of chocolatey delights most likely still swirling around in their heads and tummies.

If you have kids and celebrate Halloween, this probably sounds very familiar. What’s even more real Β is the post Halloween crash. So much sugar, so much walking, so much fun. Only to wake up the next day in a fog of….

“Whoa… what happened last night?”

Never fear! I’ve got your back. Mommies and Daddies everywhere are struggling this week and we are notΒ alone. The struggle is ohΒ so real.Β Here’s a few ways to survive the post Halloween crash.

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πŸŽƒ Coffee. It has always been there for us every morning (sometimes afternoon and evening..) and this week will be a time for it to truly shine like a diamond.

πŸ‘» Look Away. It’s ok to avoid the mirror andΒ the scale this week. It’s a survival kind of week and if you want to look away, it’s a-ok.

πŸ•· Kindness Counts. To your kids, their teachers, yourself. We are all just trying to make it here.

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Happy Post Halloween Crash week!

Dear Mom, Cut Yourself Some Slack

The term “mediocre mom” really irritates me. All mothers and fathers work really hard every-single-day. 

We get up and go day,after day,after day. It can be exhausting. No– It is exhausting. 

Sometimes things in life pop up. Maybe it’s a job change or, a major life event such as a death in the family or a new baby. 

During some points in life, we as parents no longer strive for the gold medal. There are points in life where we simply pour cereal from the box and splash milk over it every morning. 

Put the frozen pb&j on the counter to thaw by lunch time. 

Cook the boxed macaroni and cheese for dinner.

 Every day. For many days perhaps. 

And you know what? It’s ok. 

We are not bad moms. We are not bad parents. 

And you know what’s more important than having blue ribbon status as a parent? Taking care of ourselves. 

And if that means 4 episodes of Doc McStuffins in a row, then we just have to accept that. 

Remember,  we are not inferior — we are warriors who battle life every day….

And we are going to make it. 

Why Having Mommy Friends Is Awesome

Being a mom doesn’t come with instructions. When we become moms, it’s as if when we get one baby stage down, our kids quickly grow into a new uncharted stage.

It can make us feel unsure and nervous as each new stage is different. It also makes us feel excited and happy because our kids are thriving and growing. 

What has helped me, is reaching out to other moms for support, guidance and camaraderie. It was one of the best things I have done as a mom.

Most of my mommy friends, I met online. Some I’ve hung out with in person. All of them were (and are) wonderful friends and moms. 

Some moms had babies my son’s age. Some moms had kids who were a little older than my first child. I have learned–and continue to learn so much from these moms.

Each and every mom friendship has been a big part of my motherhood journey so far and I look forward to what’s to come. So, in honor of mommy friendships, I have created a short list of a few of the ways that having mommy friends is awesome. 

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They understand where you are coming from. You can go to your mom friends with each new baby stage, expressing  concerns and in turn, receive comfort and support. Knowing that other moms are going through the same baby stage, helps put your mind at ease. Getting advice and tips from seasoned moms who have gone through it already, is also very helpful. It’s wonderful to be there to see eachother’s kids grow up. 

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 They help you see things from a different perspective. Not all kids are the same and not all lifestyles are the same. Being able to see the views of other moms can open your eyes to different ways of living and parenting. There are about a million ways to be a good mom. Hearing other moms’ experiences can open your mind to other parenting styles.

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They know that we are so much more than just moms. We sometimes need a mom’s night out. Or, just grabbing coffee can be enough. Ocassionally, moms just want to talk about our own hopes and dreams. Our love lives. Our roles as sisters, friends, daughters, and so much more. It is so wonderful to have someone who really gets us. 

      
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Here is to all of the mommy friends! ❀️


 

Dear Moms With A Messy House

Life with small kids is hectic.  There is very little time to get it all done every day. One thing that is a nagging constant is the mess. Whether it be from crumbs, toys or sticky fingerprints, the mess lingers and continues on.

I think it’s not that we have to clean regularly that gets to us. What can be the most daunting, is when the mess comes back, right after we just cleaned. 

  • Sticky jelly spots on the carpet that you just shampooed. 
  • Muffin crumbs all over the kitchen floor that you just swept. 
  • Toys scattered everywhere after you just put them away (for the third time that day).

These are just a few of the many ways that living with small kids is a never ending mess. It’s not that you aren’t trying, you are. You clean up things all day, every day. It’s just hard to see it. 

In order to have a picture-perfect immaculate house, you would literally have to walk behind your kids with a tiny vacuum, wet wipes, a trash can, and a toy basket. At all times. 

That is not only kind of silly but definitely impossible. Sometimes I joke that if I didn’t have to sleep, eat or do anything else, my house would look perfect. Obviously, that is never going to happen. 

Unfortunately, in many instances mess = stress. 

So what do we do? 

We pick our battles. We clean when we can and as much as we can. Every once in a while, ignore the mess for a little bit and do something fun instead.

  • Text a friend and catch up.
  • Build a fort with your kids.
  • Watch a movie with the family.

I am not going to say never clean again. That would be crazy! I do think we are all hard on ourselves, though.

Expectations of cleaning the house and keeping it clean always and forever–as in, every second of the day, is a lot to take on.  

There has to be a place between becoming hoarders and a show-room perfect home. I think most of us fall into that category. 

Life with small kids is messy.

It’s been said many times that the kids grow up and move out and along with them, goes the mess. 

Right now, it doesn’t feel like I will miss the mess when it’s gone. I might, though. Because each little mess was made by sweet little hands that belong to my kids. 

When the kids are older, I will definitely miss those sweet little hands. 

I know it’s hard. Sometimes it’s really, really hard–and exhausting, just know that you are not alone.

Take a break, drink some coffee and enjoy your kids while they are still little. ❀️